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My entire life has taught me one thing - there is no free lunch. There is nothing for nothing in this world. There is ALWAYS a price. Large or small, spoken or unspoken, sometimes self imposed but there is always a price.
Denise or Bea gives me a surprise gift - I love it, I am delighted to be thought of, I am anxious because now I feel I must reciprocate in some way. They will protest that it is not expected, they had no thought of getting anything in return - maybe - but as time passes they do think "gee, I did something nice for her and she never does anything nice for me", and so it starts - the canker worm in the apple of the relationship.
Parents care for you and feed you and love you - maybe - and in return they expect, want, need, demand obedience, love and to feel pride and not shame at who and what you are and how you succeed in life.
The smallest transactions between people or animals requires a quid pro quo.
This might be considered a twisted view but I prefer to think realistically about things and it has been based on my 75 years on this planet.
Denise or Bea gives me a surprise gift - I love it, I am delighted to be thought of, I am anxious because now I feel I must reciprocate in some way. They will protest that it is not expected, they had no thought of getting anything in return - maybe - but as time passes they do think "gee, I did something nice for her and she never does anything nice for me", and so it starts - the canker worm in the apple of the relationship.
Parents care for you and feed you and love you - maybe - and in return they expect, want, need, demand obedience, love and to feel pride and not shame at who and what you are and how you succeed in life.
The smallest transactions between people or animals requires a quid pro quo.
This might be considered a twisted view but I prefer to think realistically about things and it has been based on my 75 years on this planet.
